Boyfriend Problems: Stay or Leave?

My boyfriend and I have known each other for quite some time and we have been dating for over 4 months. Everything was great in the beginning and he was so sweet. He took me out often and bought me gifts for Valentine's day. The simple things he did were even sweeter. I ran out of apple juice (my favorite drink) and he surprised me with 2 huge gallon bottles. Another time we met late at night and after we kissed and hugged goodbye he yelled loudly across the gate "Goodnight Jasmine!!!!" That made me grin with happiness. Oh, can't forget to mention that I lost my virginity to this guy.





From the beginning, I knew he had a lot of female friends. Before we officially got to together he said he had his "flaws" and that he didn't want to hurt me. He said he was new to the whole serious relationship thing. Which I now think is just an excuse.





Lately, things have just gone downhill. He doesn't call me or text me like he used to.





[To be continued.....]

Boyfriend Problems: Stay or Leave?
To be continued? honey i think you should talk to him and let him know everything that you are thinking, good AND bad. Communication is the best thing in a relationship..i learned that . And maybe if you let him know how you feel about things He will understand and react to whatever hes doing wrong. I Know that the last thing u want now is to break up because thi guy will be very important to you since u lost your virginity with him. I totally understand what u are saying.


I guess my advice is talk it out and go allthe way for him, if he isnt interested in the relationship. then he will let you know.


But as longas you fight for him, and u sho him that U care, u will always know that u tried enough and that u did your part.





And i just wanna add, that no, relationships dont fade. yes u can get more comfortable with time and all but happines doesnt fade in a relationship.
Reply:I don't have too much experience with this, but I've been in a few relationships that lasted over a year, and they slowly went downhill beyond repair. It sounds like this is what yours is doing. If you're questioning breaking up with him and you're not happy, then break up with him. There's not much of a point in trying to fix it if he's not going to put forth the effort to do so. You can't change him or fix it yourself... from what you've said, it seems like the best option is to just move on.
Reply:hi,


if you feel there is still relationship there then it is worth fighting for. but i don't see a relationship there he got what he wanted and now he is trying to run. it is the oldest game in the book you were a notch on his belt, or a induction into a particular men's club, it happens to some people, and just because he was a friend for a while and you boyfriend for a few months makes no difference at all. forget about him and go on with your life, getting even could be a option but it takes time to plan a plot of revenge and little or no time to show him up by being the better person and getting on with your life and becoming something special
Reply:honey, all relationships start off rosy and then reality sets in. you are probably correct in saying that he is using the new to the whole serious relationship thing. im glad you picked up on that. it means you aint stupid and your not gonna be blinded by his bullsh!t. i think its time you two break it off before things get any worse and you begin to lose respect for one another. tell him it was good while it lasted.
Reply:If you are questioning whether to stay or go chances are that you should go. Especially if you think that there is someone else involved.





If you are young, there is plenty of time left for you to find the right one and there will be a lot of wrong ones along the way. Chalk him up as a wrong one and find yourself a nice guy.
Reply:He got what he wanted and is moving on.....it happens..next time dont be so easy.
Reply:Look sometimes we win some and sometimes we loose some. It is all a game. It just up to u how u play it. When u make moves u have to think about the moves that u make. Some times we move w/o thinkin and then say dag I should have moved there. I say this to say some men don't think long like us women do. We have to think like them (men) at times.





Some men know how to get to us. We at the attention and all the lil stuff that is done in the begining, and after the men think that they can relax and start to floor off. That's when we say what happen why or what happen to all that u were doing, where did it go?





Just by us taking ang making the moves that we made, they saw that there was other moves that could've been made but we didn't. So they say well she's not payin attention so I am gonna do me.





I would do some evaluating, first w/ myself then him and if u feel that there's something left hold on and make things work. But if things don't look right to u, leave y u have a change.


And whatever u do always use protection.
Reply:My suggestion to you is to move on. He is obviously not ready to make any kind of commitment and wants to play the field. Don't call him or be available for him. He needs to see that you are moving on and not longing for him. If he is the right one for you, he will come back. If not, then you are better off. Don't make it easy for him to come and go in and out of your life. Ignore him for awhile and see what happens. In my "dating" days, I had similar problems and found that when all of a sudden I wasn't available and didn't answer the phone, things changed fast. Men can't stand it if they think you are no longer "pining" for them. LOL
Reply:Communication is key in any relationship

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