Friday, November 13, 2009

My Husband is Cheating on me?

I met this amazing man, But recently I found out he's been cheating on me. We've been married for about 6 months and I found out That I was pregnant about a week ago and I am crying really hard at night because I love him so much and he's dating another girl named Jasmine. He hasn't told me that he's been cheating but I found out by his phone, he left it at home and she called and left a message and I read it. I don't know what to do!





I love him and I'm pregnant and he's cheating on me. He never seemed ecxited that I was going to have a baby. I am really sad. What do I do?

My Husband is Cheating on me?
This is the worst time he could possibly do this. I am so sorry for you. You should leave him for your own health and the health of your baby.
Reply:Being Pregnant make you emotional none the less. My advice is to leave him. Better you found out after 6 months in the marriage than years down the road - after having built your dreams with his. I know it hurts - but do you want your child raised with a man like that? If he did it to you - he'll do it to her. Get an anullment NOW before you have to split all your stuff. You can do it. I am a single mom of 3 and am much happier NOW than having a lieing cheatn' no good dog around me and my kids. Its tough but you can do it.
Reply:ooohhh I am so sorry to hear this. I know how you feel. You can barely breath... I would talk to him about it and I would also call her and see if she even knows he has a wife.. You certainly need to think about talking to your family about staying with them for a while and probably should see a counselor. You definately do not deserve this... I will keep you in my prayers. I hope you do not stay married to him because he will do this again... Trust me I have lived through this same thing.
Reply:Well when before you tell him that you know, make sure he is with that girl and call the cops on him so that you don't get screwed if he leaves you and also your the one that is going to have that baby so don't let that affect you and forget him.
Reply:You're now at a stage where there's nothing left to do but talk it out with him. If you can't get anything from that, then there really is nothing left to do. I can understand the pain in your heart, but unless and until he doesn't there's no way for this relationship to work. You will have to leave him. Life is a very long game. If nothing works out, move on. About the child, im sorry, i really have no suggestions that I can give you (being a male myself).





Good luck.
Reply:see that's where you have it all wrong.


if i did the same thing to my wife, she's already hired a hitman for Jasmine, and after she takes out 10 million dollar life policy on me, she has me dead shortly after.





and that is why i would never even dream about cheating on her.


i really love my wife.
Reply:talk to him about this matter express how much u love him and how much u depend on him and u need him express all these things and make a point that u r the only person in this world would love so much if he doesn't care about what u r saying means then u must believe that that person all these days was cheating u complaint to police to break a girls heart is equal to murder don't leave him
Reply:I personally would not stay in that kind of relationship especially because you are pregnant. You are putting yourself at risk for diseases because you don't who all he is with. but if you talk to him, i have seen people who have changed. He needs to stop if you are going to stay with him. Give him the choice. If he continues then walk away. best of luck
Reply:You need to talk to him about the situation. Figure out if your marriage can be saved, or if you need to move on and go your own way (he'd still be responsible for child support).





We can't tell you what to do...you have to make that decision yourself but it needs to start with communicating about this, and then you'll have to decide beyond that (counseling? divorce? him promising to stop and you wait and see?)
Reply:I feel really sorry for you


but i suggest you confront him and think about leaving


he obviously is not loving you and treating you right


and you need to think if you really can bear living with him knowing hes cheating on you and is not bothered with his baby.





good luck.
Reply:ok this is what i would do:





i'd divorce him, move farrr away so he will never see the baby and then he will end up getting hurt so it goes both ways. id think he doesnt deserve to see the baby...these men can be such bitches.. just cause their not the ones giving birth to a baby they think they can **** and sleep aroud all they want! ugh dirty bitches





but then again thats just me
Reply:its useless for you to love him the thing that he is not excited having a baby with you it is clear enough that he don't love you anymore leave him your baby will make you complete... but first talk to him to make things clear.
Reply:As much as it sucks, throw him out and focus on your health and the baby. What an ahole...cheating after 6 months. What the heck did he get married for if he couldn't keep his pants on! Ugh! Sorry girl...hang in there, but get rid of him!
Reply:GIRL CONFRONT HIM AND kick him out for good ..................you deserve someone better and that truly loves you and if i were you i would also call the number back and talk to that b*****





GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS ON THE BABY ..........
Reply:I say talk to him about it. See whats going on but it looks as if divorce is your best choice. After all who wants to be with a man who can't stay faithful for 6 months? Good luck.
Reply:There is absolutely nothing amazing about this guy except how easily he got in your pants. Call Jerry Springer.
Reply:leave him!!! its obvious that he doesnt love you as much as you love him.... this will in turn become a very unhealthy relationship...
Reply:Confront him about it and tell him he will have to choose between you and the other girl.
Reply:He sounds less then amazing to me. Leave him.
Reply:Get a divorce
Reply:Divorce him and get child support....He sure doesn't sound amazing to me....
Reply:You are 13 years old....stop lying and wasting everyones time with your questions that are full of lies!
Reply:are you sure???? what DID the message say?
Reply:Child support AND Alimony...you gotta love this country!
Reply:What an amazing piece of ****. Walk away babe, just walk away!
Reply:I'm gonna go with Ashleigh's comment above...what did the message say?? How often do women misconstrue what they read or hear because we automatically assume it's for the worst? Maybe it's some chick he rejected trying to get him back by saying sexy things in text messages. You need to sit down with your husband and discuss what you saw before you jump to such hasty conclusions. Secondly, what married man having an affair leaves his cell phone lying around when he goes out? Thirdly, who's even named Jasmine anymore? Sorry, beside the point. Anyway, before you get yourself sick with worry over something potentially blown out of hand, talk to him. You took vows for "better or worse" so it's up to you to uphold them just as much as him. If he's cheating, and you can forgive him, then forgive him. If you can't forgive, and you can live with it...still divorce him. It's not a good environment to bring your baby into - a man that you don't respect as his father. Good luck with whatever you choose, but make sure you think it through because this is your baby's life you're also making decisions for, not just yours.
Reply:You will need to confront him. There are two ways he can react. He might admit to everything, open up, get help, be embarrassed and want to fix himself. He should be willing to be an open book completely (you have access to the cell phone, he lets you know where he is, etc) until he EARNS back your trust. But, don't bank on it...chances are, he'll admit it and waffle and make up excuses and fudge and hope to continue his affair while getting you to "trust" him again. I've been through this...the only hope is for you to put your foot down and demand that he act like a man, protect you and the child, and live up to his promises. If he can't, then he's not able to be an effective father and you might need to consider a split. But remember something - the split will have its own issues...the other woman may become his stepmother someday! Take a deep breath for now...there will be tough times ahead. Take care.
Reply:You deserve so much better. And for the babies sake try not to get to upset. You could end up having a miscarriage due to stress. If he does not have the respect you enough to respect your marriage for more than 6 months then think about the many years to come. And remember you do not need to be married to raise a child. This is the kind of situation that you want to seriously think about your child first, it is no longer about you. Do you want your child to grow up in an unhappy home? If your husband is willing to cheat on you, what else is he willing to do? "I KNOW" it can be one of the hardest choices in your life to realize this amazing man, is just a man who is not perfect. Good luck, but remember, it is no longer about just you, but the child you hold within you.
Reply:You will have to let him know what you found out... Give him the opportunity to tell you exactly what is going on... Don't surmise anything....





If it is such the case that he indeed is "stepping out" on you... you have to face the problem and move from there..


As painful as it is....especially with a new baby coming, it is imperative that you get to the truth of the matter.





Maybe he is fearful of becoming a father? The responsibility of raising a child is an awesome task. Talk with him when you are calm... or as calm as you can be...





If he wants to keep his marriage.. he will tell you, hopefully.


If not, you won't have the choice of trying to keep him.


You deserve someone who loves you and wants to share their life with you.





Communication is the key here.. as painful as it may be..


Better to know what he wants and feels then to hope for the


the rosy future with someone who wants to share the wealth with others.... You know what I mean....





I don't think I would want to be with someone who doesn't want me... if that's the case...





Talk to him and see where he is in his life...





Take care.... and remember that you have a new life coming into this world... you are blessed.
Reply:Well, there are several things going on here. Too many women just assume that their getting pregnant will/must be 100% accepted by their man. No, this is the sort of issue where BOTH people need to discuss it, beforehand, so that, when and if it happens, BOTH people are willing and happy for it to occur. So, its quite possible that your announcement about being pregnant has upset him, and that he is acting out, badly, I agree, because of that. Did you two discuss and agree on having a baby before you got pregnant ?


Given that mess, then you need to discuss all of this with him. Crying and moping is for children, who are passive when faced with life. Adults are active and they take charge of life, and take steps to arrive at better results. Your choice. Mope


of deal and make it better.


"No, do or do not. There is no try." Yoda, The Empire Strikes Back.
Reply:I say you confront him with this, and give him the chance to be a real man and come clean, and fix the situation.





You need to tell him clearly, that you don't want to continue if this is going to be his standard mode of operation.





If he starts lying about it, making excuses, etc., then get away from him IMMEDIATELY, move in with someone who can protect you (in case this guy becomes a psycho), and see a divorce attorney.





By the way, It does no good to try to threaten him, like "you stop seeing her or I'm leaving, and I'm going to sue you for everything you've got" blah blah blah.





He should not be faithful just because you threaten him. He either has character, or he doesn't, and that exists outside of being threatened.


It's also dangerous, because if he's a bad guy, you can get hurt doing this.





PM me if you want more advice.


(I'm a guy, by the way)

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Introduction to a teenager diary/book I wrote. Would you want to continue reading?

4-1-2008


So, here I am at home. It's about 2:30 pm ( I think I may start putting the time next to the date up there) and I am pretty bored, considering the fact that my dad is "sick" and I decided not to go to school today. Therefore, my dad decides he is taking away everything from my internet to playing guitar hero! :/ Whatevs, I stopped caring a while ago. As for my dad being "sick", I think he may have a minor headache ( which is totally normal for him, it's called asprin or whatever ) and sore throat. Even though he sounds terrible when he's talking, I just don't know. I don't think it was worth him staying home from work for a whole two days! I don't even have room to be talking to be brutally honest. This morning I had this bad feeling right in the pit of my stomach, but now I feel completely fine after a four good hours of sleep! :) Around noon, I told Mr. Ouch! My throat hurts, no work for me! that I was feeling better and wanted to get ready and go to school, but no! Of course not! Anything Jasmine wants today she isn't getting, even if it is returning back to school, which I am getting in trouble for in the first place! :Z All this is how ended up with this "journal" thing. I am so freaken' bored I resorted to clearing all the **** off my computer, and starting a journal on here! I guess it isn't too bad of an idea. I mean, I spend most of my time on this thing anyway. I should come up with a name for it! Haha. How about...Bertha?! Nah, I use that name all the time. Um...Andy! That's it! From now on my computer is going to be refered to as Andy, at least by me anyway. I probably won't write on this everyday. I will probably only write on it when I am either a.) extremely bored or b.) really feeling low about something. I tried writing in a diary a couple times. Let's just say actually writing things about the sick and twisted story of my life, is not my thing. :)





4-1-2008 6:21pm %26lt;%26lt;The time :)


Hi, for the second time today! How are you? I am pretty pissed off. I'm a teenager, I'm hormonal, I'm blah blah blah. I have heard it a jillion times. So then, does every teenager feel like the whole world is out to get them? I swear! Annie (dad's physco girlfriend) and my father make up so much **** on the spot! It's like they dig and dig and dig for more for more things to use against me or ***** at me about. For example, I make one smart comment and they start yellin' at me for that, (which is halfway understandable) but then they sit there for the rest of the night and look for something to scream at me for! Like, later on I pour kool-aid on the counter instead of over the sink. Lord help us all! According to Annie and dad that is the end of the world and we need to ground Jasmine for it! Then, they keep saying, "I am the adult, and you are the child." I just wanna scream out, "THEN WHY DON'T YOU START ACTING LIKE ONE?!" Of ourse if I did that they would either a.) murder me right there on the spot or b.) ground me in my prison cell of a room for the rest of the month! What is a girl to do in this situation? Help!%26gt;.%26lt;

Introduction to a teenager diary/book I wrote. Would you want to continue reading?
I wouldn't continue reading this.





For one, the entries are one big block of text. Second, your character rambles. Also, she sounds insincere and dull. Finally, it's just some character's psychobabble.





I understand that this is how a typical teenage journal might sound (it hasn't been too long since I was there myself,) but this is writing and in writing prose--whatever format you put it in--has to be tight, concise, and interesting. I'm afraid that this is just the opposite right now.





Without knowing more about the project, I can't offer much advice. I can offer a few bits, though. For one, focus on conflict. Real conflict. Overarching conflict that will drive your character's story. Next, tighten up the writing, watch the crazy punctuation, and the rambling sentences.





Almost any idea can be pulled off well. However, poor execution will ruins the most brilliant concepts. Tread carefully, act professionally, and keep writing. Good luck!


How well do you know your classic rock?

Okay, ten points to the first one who get's this song correct!! I will show you some lyrics, then give you some background history. Here it goes:





"See the curtains hanging in the window


In the evening on a Friday night


A little light a-shining through the window


Lets me know every thing's all right..."





Summer _____, makes me feel fine


Blowing through the jasmine in my mind


Summer _____, makes me feel fine


Blowing through the jasmine in my mind





..."See the smile a waiting in the kitchen


Food cooking and the plates for two


Feel the arms that reach out to hold me


In the evening when the day is through."

How well do you know your classic rock?
Summer Breeze by Seals and Crofts
Reply:breeze





i have the type o negative version
Reply:Summer Breeze -- Seals and Croft
Reply:Yes


Summer Breeze by Seals and Croft
Reply:BREEZE...Seals and Croft


11-year-old stepdaughter from different country, culture, religion desplaying BAFFELING behaviors. What to do?

She begs to go to expensive amusement park, I get tickets, yet she suddenly would rather see Spiderman 3. She is Muslim, from western Africa, %26amp; is dark skinned, yet she sees all black women as “ugly”. She loves princesses with blonde hair/ blue eyes like Cinderella whom she describes as “very beautiful” scoffing at the only dark skinned princess Disney ever tried to do a film on, who is also MUSLIM—“Princess Jasmine”. She refers to her as looking “OK” once she said Princess Jasmine was “ugly” %26amp; she didn’t want to see any movie that she was in (!!???).She hates it if I say Tyra Banks is one of the world’s most beautiful women! If I say Britney Spears is she is silent but does not go off about how Spears is “ugly” the way she does with Banks. She said that cutting my hair will attract “ghosts” to me %26amp; they may kill me at night (!?). I asked what about your father/brothers? Don’t they have short hair? She tells me everything is “different for women". How to deal w/this? Avoid her? I wish!

11-year-old stepdaughter from different country, culture, religion desplaying BAFFELING behaviors. What to do?
Since you mentioned Tyra Banks!!


ANTM had an indian girl last season that saw herself as ugly. She thought she was ugly because a lot of people picked on her for being so dark, but obviously she wasn’t ugly. They picked her to be on the show!





I think she needs time to adjust. She’s still very young. Children remember everything, and it’s not so easy to shake off everything they learn from other people. She’ll be fine, just be patient and be a good step mom!
Reply:The changing her mind from amusement park to seeing the movie thing just sounds like typical adolescent behavior. Annoying, but not BAD. The other stuff.....I don't know. Perhaps she's been told that only white women are beautiful or has little self-esteem about how she looks. All I can recommend is to continue to remark on how women of color are beautiful if they come up in conversation and let her know that SHE is beautiful. She's a pre-teen and pre-teens lack confidence. Show her how ALL women are beautiful, not just Disney's white princesses. :)





To the poster below me, Africa is NOTTTTTTTTTT a country. It's a continent made up of over 50 countries.
Reply:oh wow. You got your hands full for sure.





I would say with the whole ugly thing and what not is probably self esteem issues.





You buying expensive tickets then her not using them isn't right. She needs to know the value of money. You said she is from Africa so i don't know why she would be like this being that country barley has money. But if you buy something like that then i would make her stick to her. It also teaches her responsibilities and to make her choices wisely and not just having you buy them because she thinks she wants to do it but doesn't really know because of maybe the way of life she was used to in Africa. Oh i hope i explained this part right. :|





And the other things about the killing and what not i would tell her how the American ways are. and maybe start getting her into your religion whatever it may be. But if those type of things get worse or are really bothering you then i would suggest taking her to a councilor or something.





I hope it all works out well for you. Good Luck!
Reply:sounds like you need some REAL help! maybe a good DR.
Reply:Your husband....her father should take her to family counseling to help her integrate into our society.





You should back him up but pretty much stay out of it.


Here are Potions used through the centuries. Why do Christians think they're works of their Satan?

EARTH MOTHER PERFUME:


Musk oil,Patchouli oil,Rose Oil


Blend in equal parts, bottle and shake well.


ISIS PERFUME:


Rose oil, Blue Lotus Oil


Blend equal parts, bottle and shake well.


SUN GODDESS PERFUME:


Cinnamon Oil, Lemon Verbana Oil,Ylang-Ylang Oil


Blend equal parts, bottle and shake well.


OIL FOR THE DARK OF THE MOON:


2 fl.oz.(60cc) tincture of myrrh


1 fl.oz.(30cc) oil of cinnamon


1/4 fl.oz.(7cc) Queen of the Night Oil


1 fl.oz.(30cc) oil of rose


Blend, bottle and shake well.


OIL FOR THE RITES OF ISIS:


7 drops oil of rose


2 Drops oil of Camphor


2 drops tincture of myrrh


3 drops oil of blue hyacinth


Blend the oils of rose, camphor, and blue hyacinth during the


waxing moon. Bottle and keep till the Moon wanes. Add the Myrrh


KALI INCENSE:


This is an individual and personalized incense, for attunement


to your own Dark of the Moon.


1 oz (30gm) sandalwood chips


1 oz (30gm) Dried jasmine flowers or 6 drops jasmine oil


1/2 oz (15gm) dried rose petals


2 drops of your own menstrual blood


Blend and use for private meditation during the onset of your


menstruation.

Here are Potions used through the centuries. Why do Christians think they're works of their Satan?
Because people are very close minded. They want to push their beliefs on you and drown you with the rhetoric, however, they will close their eyes and hate everything that is different from what the believe.
Reply:Because in christianity, a person is told that things like potions are of the devil or satan while killing people in the name of thier god is perfectly Okay. That's why I am no longer one of them.
Reply:First of all this Q is asked incorrectly. Christians "their satan?"





Christians believe in the healing Power of our Lord Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit only.





Only these two can heal, and no potion on earth is going to heal you spiritually, mentally and physically like God can.
Reply:Well, maybe most of those potions are designed for the "god" of the particular association. And you don't need potions and spells to believe in God. Somebody said to me there are two basic religions. 1) What God can do for people and 2) What people can do for God(s) (Think about that for a moment...)
Reply:Because most potions (if you have read Harry Potter) can be used for evil, to ensnare the soul and the mind
Reply:You might want to check your working next time time because lucifer, or satan, is not ours, he belongs to the worshippers of satan and the potions belong to to worshippers of satan. Those potions are the works of satan and are associated with greek gods who are not gods but created by humans.
Reply:I was raised Christian (but can't speak for all of them) but I was taught everything not Christian was evil. I wouldn't have bothered to actually see for myself for fear God (in his (tough)-loving kindness would punish me)


;-)
Reply:Let me Start by saying that as a celtic wicca......... i do not beleive in satan.... i am a tree hugger lol





But people fear the unknown .
Reply:Because the early Christians believed that casting spells and making potions were pagan ritual, which at the time they were trying to stop pagan worshiping and convert everyone to become Christians
Reply:Here is what the problem is. Any person that could heal, was considered a witch. When the priest would say there was no cure, and some little old lady would heal the person, both the healer and the healed would be called devil worshipers.





The christian church couldn't have people undermine the authority that the church had. The alternative would be that people would start following another religion. This is something that was held over from the roman times, when the Christians were burned as torches in the house of Nero. They would find the heretics saying only one god existed, and put them in jail. Then when Nero had a party, he would call for the prisoners to be put in cages with straw and oil on the straw. Over the course of the night they would light the straw for light, and entertainment. (some say dead, some say alive Christians were burned)





So when the Christian sects came into power, the cycle didn't stop. It is why suspected witches would be burned at the stake...
Reply:Basically because the bible says so, and Christians believe that the bible is the word of God.


And blah, blah, blah ....

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Who wrote Summer Breeze?

I know the song well, however don't remember who origionally wrote it. I'm giving you the lyrics in hopes it will help!





See the curtains hangin' in the window


In the evening on a friday night


A little light-a-shinin' in the window


Let's me know everythings alright





Summer breeze makes me feel fine


Blowin through the Jasmine in my mind





See the paper layin' on the sidewalk


A little musi from the house next door


So I walk on up to the doorstep


Through the screen and across the floor





Sweet days of summer


The Jasmine's in bloom


July is dressed up


And playing her tune


And I come home


From a hard day's work


And you're waiting there


Not a care in the world





See the smile awaitn in the kitchen


Food cookin' and the plates for two


Feel the arms that reach out to hold me


In the evening when the day is through

Who wrote Summer Breeze?
Lyrics by James Seals; music by James Seals %26amp; Dash Crofts, 1971.








I personally favor the Type O Negative cover.
Reply:James Seals %26amp; Dash Crofts
Reply:seals. and crofts?
Reply:Seals %26amp; Crofts
Reply:Seals and Croft of course!
Reply:Seals %26amp; Crofts
Reply:Seals %26amp; Croft
Reply:the isley brothers sing it...one of them I'm guessing. Ron?


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4-1-2008


So, here I am at home. It's about 2:30 pm ( I think I may start putting the time next to the date up there) and I am pretty bored, considering the fact that my dad is "sick" and I decided not to go to school today. Therefore, my dad decides he is taking away everything from my internet to playing guitar hero! :/ Whatevs, I stopped caring a while ago. As for my dad being "sick", I think he may have a minor headache ( which is totally normal for him, it's called asprin or whatever ) and sore throat. Even though he sounds terrible when he's talking, I just don't know. I don't think it was worth him staying home from work for a whole two days! I don't even have room to be talking to be brutally honest. This morning I had this bad feeling right in the pit of my stomach, but now I feel completely fine after a four good hours of sleep! :) Around noon, I told Mr. Ouch! My throat hurts, no work for me! that I was feeling better and wanted to get ready and go to school, but no! Of course not! Anything Jasmine wants today she isn't getting, even if it is returning back to school, which I am getting in trouble for in the first place! :Z All this is how ended up with this "journal" thing. I am so freaken' bored I resorted to clearing all the **** off my computer, and starting a journal on here! I guess it isn't too bad of an idea. I mean, I spend most of my time on this thing anyway. I should come up with a name for it! Haha. How about...Bertha?! Nah, I use that name all the time. Um...Andy! That's it! From now on my computer is going to be refered to as Andy, at least by me anyway. I probably won't write on this everyday. I will probably only write on it when I am either a.) extremely bored or b.) really feeling low about something. I tried writing in a diary a couple times. Let's just say actually writing things about the sick and twisted story of my life, is not my thing. :)





4-1-2008 6:21pm %26lt;%26lt;The time :)


Hi, for the second time today! How are you? I am pretty pissed off. I'm a teenager, I'm hormonal, I'm blah blah blah. I have heard it a jillion times. So then, does every teenager feel like the whole world is out to get them? I swear! Annie (dad's physco girlfriend) and my father make up so much **** on the spot! It's like they dig and dig and dig for more for more things to use against me or ***** at me about. For example, I make one smart comment and they start yellin' at me for that, (which is halfway understandable) but then they sit there for the rest of the night and look for something to scream at me for! Like, later on I pour kool-aid on the counter instead of over the sink. Lord help us all! According to Annie and dad that is the end of the world and we need to ground Jasmine for it! Then, they keep saying, "I am the adult, and you are the child." I just wanna scream out, "THEN WHY DON'T YOU START ACTING LIKE ONE?!" Of ourse if I did that they would either a.) murder me right there on the spot or b.) ground me in my prison cell of a room for the rest of the month! What is a girl to do in this situation? Help!%26gt;.%26lt;

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That is more like a blog than an introduction to a book.